Energy Work Can Improve Relationships
In this video, Jolene Victor of Victory Energy Wellness joins me to talk about her experience as a SimplyHealed PractitionerTM and how it has improved her relationships with her family members.
10 Behaviors that Block Happiness
Spring is the time for new beginnings and that means Spring Cleaning to let go of what is not serving you. We all seek that elusive quality of “happiness.” Here are some things you can place your awareness on and clean out of your life so you can be happier.
Impressing. What you have —your possessions, your accomplishments—don’t result in real relationship or lasting happiness.
Blaming. Your response to any situation is your choice. Try making it a learning opportunity—taking responsibility is empowering.
Controlling. It doesn’t help you feel good about yourself. Honor your boundaries, but make space for others’ needs and choices, too.
Criticizing. We are all unique and different, not better or worse. Appreciate the differences instead of zeroing in on shortcomings.
Whining. Complaining is ineffective, whereas asking for what you want is liberating.
Clinging to what is known. When you’re feeling afraid or insecure, be willing to let go of the familiar, take a risk and try something new.
Being Ungrateful. Stay aware of all the gifts and blessings that you do have. Express gratitude and happiness will follow.
Preaching. Another form of judging. Find more fun and empowering ways to share your knowledge.
Negative Self-talk. Train yourself to notice your mind’s chatter. Working towards changing negative thoughts to positive ones will transform your life.
Fear. Don’t let fear get in the way of progress. Whatever you’ve been dreaming, get going on it. “Feel the fear and do it anyway.”
How have you been able to overcome these negative behaviors in your life? How have you become better at recognizing these behaviors and stopping them? Share with us below…
Author’s content used under license, © Claire CommunicationsTop 10 Ideas for Journaling
It has been said that journaling is a voyage to the interior. Inside of all of us is a unique wisdom that can inform our choices and enhance our experience of life. Once we tap into that, we realize that we know more than we thought we did. One potent way to access this wisdom is through journaling. I love the answers I find when I relax, put pen to paper, and just begin writing. Sometimes I write about weird or silly thoughts until something better and more constructive comes out. But the trick is to sit down and begin.
Here are 10 ideas to help you mine for gold with a pen:
1. Free write. Write as fast as you can—whatever comes to your mind—without regard to spelling, punctuation, etc. This “brain dump” helps you clear your mind and prepare for the day.
2. Write about your childhood. Write specific memories and notice any trends that occur or insights you have about your present life.
3. Free associate. One word sparks another and so on. Watching where your mind takes you can help you get “underneath” issues you may be dealing with.
4. Create timelines, graphs or word clusters (aka “mindmaps”). Use these tools to explore trends, patterns and different perspectives.
5. Write letters. Clear up issues or unfinished business. Even if you never end up sending it, writing can clear up stuck energy.
6. Draw or collage. You know the saying, “A picture is worth a thousand words.”
7. Keep an idea journal. Jot down ideas that come to you throughout the day.
8. Make lists. Fears, things you’re grateful for, aspirations, animals in your dreams, etc. Making lists aggregates information in ways that give you a big picture view.
9. Ask and answer questions. Pretend someone is interviewing you about an issue and answer their question. You may be surprised by what comes out of your mouth or pen.
10. Record your dreams. What do the images and feelings in them tell you?
Author’s content used under license, © 2008 Claire CommunicationsCan Energy Healing Help with Money Problems?
Yes, energy healing can help transform your finances. You hear the phrase “poverty mentality” a lot, and that’s because poverty really is a mental thing. Our own thoughts and those we carry in our ancestral lines can affect our money situation.
Besides using energy work to clear money blocks, you can also work on changing your thoughts. If you’re having trouble manifesting money, it’s really a state of mind. Shift your thoughts, and you can shift into greater abundance. Making the shift requires getting past thoughts like
- Who am I to have money?
- I’m afraid people won’t pay for what I have to offer.
- It might not be okay with God for me to have a desire to make money
- Maybe you were reared with the mindset of, “We can’t afford that.” “Money doesn’t grow on trees.”
We take in so much in our childhood and our adulthood. For example, I lived in a neighborhood for several years where everyone spoke negatively about money. They said things like. “Oh, we can’t afford it.” Community conversations were always very negative about money. Most of us in the neighborhood were young marrieds with a couple of kids. At that time of our lives most of us in the neighborhood were struggling with money.
I was raised that you don’t really talk about money. When I moved into this neighborhood a few years after we first married, I thought, “Oh, everybody’s so open about how poor they are.” That seemed really weird to me. After a while you get used to it and you start talking the talk with them.
Then, our family grew and we needed a bigger house. We sold that house and moved to a different neighborhood. I was still in that mindset and talking like that. It took me about a year to realize, “Wow this negative talk about money makes people uncomfortable if that’s not their way of speaking.”
I had to figure out the hard way, “I have got to change the way I talk, the way I see it, the way I view it.” When we moved into a bigger house, I was excited every day when I got up because I thought, “I can’t believe I’m living in this house. This is too nice of a house for me.”
Just be aware of those thoughts. Why are you thinking these things? Why do you feel that you aren’t worthy of nice things?
I’m going to suggest some books. If you’ve already read them, re-read them. They’re old books that have been around for years.
- The Science of Getting Rich by Wallace Wattles. Don’t let the title throw you off. If you’re thinking, “Oh, that’s not a spiritual thing to want to get rich.” It’s really quite a spiritual book.
- Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill
- As a Man Thinketh by James Allen
These books go deeper than just money. They go into your thoughts, emotions, and how your energy lines up. A lot of it has to do with the Law of Vibration, which is one of the seven laws of the universe. When we live in accordance with these laws we can manifest what we desire. The Law of Vibration states that you attract to you people, circumstances and things that resonate with your own thoughts and feelings.
Think of it like a radio. As you adjust the dial you are in tune with a different frequency. If you keep your radio dial set on the “poverty station” with constant worry and fretting about money, you’re going to keep bringing poverty into your life. Adjusting your thoughts and words about money can take a lot of work and effort, but it doesn’t have to be hard. It can be as easy as changing the station on a radio. It’s a matter of allowing it to be easy and becoming aware of your thoughts and words.
Remember, if you’re in a poverty mindset, you’re going to attract poverty. If you’re in an abundance mindset you’ll attract abundance. It’s like switching to a different station. Your frequency determines what you resonate with outside of yourself. What you resonate with is what you can draw to you. Start with just being aware of your thoughts. That’s the key.
Yes, energy healing can help with poverty mentality, but there is also a lot you can do on your own. Get those books, read them and pay attention to the little details about how your thoughts directly impact what is going on in your life.
How to Create A Balanced Relationship
Whether they are married, in a relationship or single – most people would say they want to have a balanced relationship with their significant other. But what does a balanced relationship look like and how do you maintain it?
The fact is, we all relate to people in different ways: Dependently (or codependently), Independently and Interdependently.
Dependent/codependent:
In these relationships one person sets aside his or her personal welfare to maintain the relationship. This dynamic implies that the codependent person in the relationship can’t survive independently of the other person.
Independent:
In this configuration, the couple lives mostly separate lives. For example, they have different friends, are rarely together and make decisions autonomously. They may live separately as well and they are fine with that arrangement.
Interdependent:
In this type of relationship, two people are intimate with one another but don’t compromise or sacrifice themselves or their values. This dynamic is about collaboration and cooperation. Each person is self-reliant (physically, emotionally, financially, etc.) and, simultaneously, responsible to the other.
While it’s possible to find happiness, at least temporarily, in all three types of relationships, the Interdependent relationship is generally considered the model for a balanced relationship.
What do you do if you don’t consider your relationship to be balanced? With a little information and effort it’s possible to attain a balanced relationship.
1. Find Inner Balance by:
• Focusing on what you can control (your thoughts, feelings and actions) not what you can’t (others’ thoughts, feelings and actions).
• Noticing how you feel and, as clearly and calmly as you can, communicating those feelings.
• Recognizing and owning your issues, which will help you recognize your partner’s as well. You can be empathic and supportive without having to “fix” everything.
2. Create and Maintain a Balanced Relationship by:
• Staying present and empathic even when your partner is upset.
• Stepping back from conflicts to avoid escalation, assess the problem and make positive changes.
• Reframing the actions/reactions of your partner. For example, seeing a loved one as anxious and fearful, instead of cruel and controlling, paves the way for a more sympathetic, less confrontational approach.
• Being a good listener and focusing on the only person you can change—yourself.
3. Recognize and change old emotional patterns and blocked energetic pathways by:
• Writing down negative feelings that manifest themselves throughout your day. Then rewrite them in a positive light.
• Become aware of “triggers” that influence your mood. Many times just the awareness will lead to your ability to not be influenced by them – putting you in control.
• Write down up to 10 positive affirmations you would like to see manifested in your relationship and post them where you will see and read them often (ie. Bathroom mirror, near your computer screen, etc.)
Keep in mind that balance, like a relationship, is dynamic not static. It’s impossible to keep balance 100% of the time in every situation. Even a balanced relationship can, at times, feel like more work than play.
Remember, sometimes the focus will be more on you, other times more on your partner, and still other times when what’s best for “us” needs the focus rather than either individual.
Like a wave, there is an ebb and flow to relationships. But once we are aware of what balanced relationships look like we can better manage that dynamic.
Would you like to pull out those threads of negative emotional patterns and release blocked energy to allow your Spirit to be more open to and/or attract the relationship you desire?
This month I am having a group phone session focusing on Romantic Relationships. For those of you in a relationship this call will be focused on your relationship with your partner. If you are single we will also be releasing issues blocking you from attracting your ideal mate. So really, this call is for everyone!
Here’s what we’ll be working on:
• Releasing negative dependent/co-dependent/independent false beliefs.
• Shifting thought patterns to accept and attract an interdependent relationship.
• Instilling positive affirmations to support your raised energetic attractiveness for the relationship you desire.
To learn more about group phone sessions and to sign-up, go here.
Author’s content used under license, © 2011 Claire CommunicationsThoughts Under the Stars
Last week I had the opportunity to be out in nature, sleeping under the stars. Now, I’m not a big fan of camping (the dirt, the cold nights, the out-house, lying on hard, bumpy ground, etc.), however, I do love sleeping under the stars and admiring their brilliance, majesty, and beauty. There were SO many stars in the sky last week! And I even saw several shooting stars, which always puts a big smile on my face even if I’m the only one still awake to see them.
Something about sleeping under all those stars in God’s great big sky that really brings life into perspective for me. I always think of the millions of others around the globe who are looking up at the same stars as I am, as well as people throughout history who have lived, camped, traveled, warred, and loved under this same beautiful canopy of stars -cue the song, “Somewhere Out There” from the kid’s movie “An American Tail” (yes, that’s the way they spell ‘tale’).
Somehow realizing how small I am in this huge galaxy inspires me to live bigger, live better. Here in the US it is summer, and I recognize I have many readers from other countries, where it may be a different season for you right now, but no matter the weather, have you taken the opportunity recently to really look up and connect to this beautiful Universe? I don’t do that often enough, but when I take the time to be still, look up and just listen for the inspiration that is waiting to talk to me I sense and feel juicy nuggets of knowledge that help me on my journey through life.
How about you? When was the last time you relaxed under a beautiful star-filled sky? How did that inspire you? When can you arrange to do that again? Ask yourself these questions, and/or feel free to add your comments to the blog by clicking below.
Now I am on my way to find my air mattress in my storage closet so I can set it up on my deck tonight, gaze up at the stars once again~ I am open to receiving all the inspiration I can get!
How Well Do I Love My Body?
The topic for our group call this month is weight loss, so this month’s article encourages us to focus on the ways our body serves us and how we can serve it, which helps us to accept—yes, even love—our bodies and to stop obsessing about appearance only.
If losing weight is one of your goals, it helps tremendously to have a loving relationship with your body. Sometimes people are afraid if they love their body as it is, and they are not the size or shape they’d like to be, that it will be more difficult to drop the extra pounds or firm up the muscles. They say, “I don’t want to love this extra weight, I want to just concentrate on loving the body I want to have instead; the body that is underneath this extra weight!”
The thing is, when you love yourself for who you truly are, and who you see yourself becoming, that vital connection strengthens you as you take better care of yourself by making healthier food choices, drinking enough water, getting enough fresh air, exercise, and sleep, so that it is much easier to lose any extra weight.
Its our thoughts about ourselves that can be damaging or productive. Furthermore, our own opinion of ourselves influences others’ opinions of us much more than we realize.
Below is a list of statements that will give you some positive ways to see your body and hopefully help you be more open in how well you love your body. As you read through these statements just notice how they feel in your body. Do you feel any resistance? Sadness? Hopefulness? Do any of them make you smile? Just observe how they land for you.
1. I do things that let me enjoy my body—dance, take a hot bath, walk, get a massage.
2. I see myself as a whole person, not just as a body.
3. I wear comfortable clothes that I really like and that feel good to my body, rather than trying to hide or camouflage my body or to follow uncomfortable fashion trends.
4. I act the way I would if I had what I consider an ‘ideal’ body.
5. I do things I enjoy and don’t let my weight or shape keep me from it.
6. I tell my body at night how much I appreciate what it has allowed me to do throughout the day.
7. I appreciate that my arms enable me to hold someone I love, that my thighs enable me
walk and run.
8. I exercise to feel good physically and clear my mind, not only to lose or maintain weight.
9. I count my blessings, not my blemishes.
10. I think of my body as a valuable gift.
12. I consider myself the expert on my body, not the fashion magazines, the cosmetics industry, the weight charts.
13. I am as “in love” with my body as an infant is.
14. I think of my body as a tool, as an instrument of my life, not just as an ornament.
15. I act as though I am my body’s ally and advocate, not its enemy.
16. I listen to my body and take its needs and wishes into consideration when making decisions.
17. I refuse to waste time criticizing my body or worrying about my appearance, and instead spend my time on something more productive.
18. When someone says, “You look great today,” I enthusiastically respond, “Why, thank you so much!”
How did you do?
Remember, your cells are very aware of every thought you have, so you never want any part of your body to feel unloved. It’s important to put as much love into your body as possible.
If you struggle in this area, I would love to help. Join me for my Group SimplyHealed™ phone session where we will be “de-fragging your bio-computer”, releasing limiting beliefs that are keeping you stuck and sluggish in the area of weight loss, and “installing” new, positive thought patterns to help you get healthy and stay healthy! Register here.
Author’s content used under license, © 2008 Claire CommunicationsMuscle Testing
Muscle testing is a great little tool that provides information on energy blockages, the functioning of the organs, nutritional deficiencies, and food sensitivities, among other things. It can also be used to test the body’s responses to herbs, essential oils, and other remedies. It is a non-invasive way of evaluating the body’s imbalances and assessing its needs. The body’s responses will either test strong or weak when applying slight pressure to any muscle.
I’ve taught classes on muscle testing for many years, and have noticed one thing that people really seem to struggle with.
I often get asked, “If you’re testing supplements it will always give you an answer either yes or no, and that will be a ‘Universal truth’”.
But when you’re testing for emotional issues it may test strong for someone on a negative belief they have about themselves but that is not a “Universal truth”, it is just a false-belief they have about themselves. It is just their own truth they have come to believe.”
So why does muscle-testing give the truth on
remedies, and not the ‘real’ truth for
negative misperceptions about ourselves?
Why does it work one way with remedies & supplements,
etc, and in a different way with emotions?
I can understand the confusion about this IF you are assuming that a strong response always means true and that a weak response always means false.
Think of it more in the sense of how does that resonate with what my patterns and beliefs are. Because what we are actually testing is:
Does this resonate with my body?
Does this resonate with my emotions?
Does this resonate with what my belief about this issue is?
Whenever you say or think something that resonates as true with your subconscious mind, the electrical and magnetic fields around your body actually become stronger therefore strengthening the muscle.
Similarly, when you say or think something that resonates as false with your subconscious mind, the electrical and magnetic fields around your body actually become weaker, so the muscle will test weak.
Let’s take this example of a woman who is a good mother, but is struggling in that area right now. If I test this statement on her:
“I am a good mother” and it goes weak, it is not saying that that statement is false and the truth is that she really is not a good mother – that is not a “Universal truth” It is simply showing that she has some doubts about her mothering at that time (or some stored ones) in her subconscious or conscious mind that are weakening the electrical and magnetic fields. The worry and doubt she has about it are what is making it weak.
The fact that it is not a “Universal truth” does not mean that the muscle testing is working in a different way than if we were simply testing for a supplement.
Again, we are seeing how strong or weak the energy is, not if something is true or false.
I hope that clears that up! Feel free to add your comments below and let me know…
If you need more clarity or want to WATCH and learn how muscle testing is done, I recommend my DVD, The Art of Muscle Testing available here. That way you can watch it as many times as you need to, practice, practice, practice and you’ll be a pro muscle tester in no time!
How Long Does it Take for Energy Work to Show Up in the Body?
Question: “How long does it take the body to adjust and follow new energy patterns?”
I answer this question in this short video:
Do Different Energy Modalities Interfere with Each Other?
Question: “Is it a bad idea to try lots of different methods of energy healing?”
In this short video I give my answer about how different methods of energy work can work together and how you can determine what works for you and what doesn’t.